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A new book by Hawking’s old friend Leonard Mlodinow (a copy of which was obtained by the Daily Mail) reveals details of Hawking’s marriages & affairs & how the physicist, who communicated by a computer, demanded khổng lồ be the center of attention, eclipsing most everyone in his life.
Hawking was first married khổng lồ Jane Wilde in the 1960s when the couple were both in their early 20s, và when he was first exhibiting signs of ALS. But their sex life was wanting.
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Jane would become more of a caretaker over the next three decades, “eventually feed him, dress him, bathe him & sit with him through his many hospital visits and near-death experiences.”
“In the process, over time, she’d thảm bại her own identity,” Mlodinow writes. “And with it, her self-worth. ‘’Who am I?’’ she’d wonder.”
The two remained married until 1985 when, after a tracheotomy, Hawking fell for his nurse, Elaine Mason, a fiery redhead who “liked to lớn skateboard và definitely knew how khổng lồ flirt”.
“Maybe one reason they bonded was that she had the flamboyance he would have exhibited if he’d had the use of his body,” Mlodinow writes. “For her part, Elaine wasn’t put off by Stephen’s physical condition. Just the opposite: she was drawn to it.”
At the time of their affair, both Hawking & Mason were still married — he to lớn Jane và she khổng lồ David, “an engineer and self-confessed Hawking super-fan who helped develop Hawking’s speech synthesizer.”
At the same time, Jane was conducting her own affair with Jonathan Hellyer Jones, the choirmaster at her local church in Cambridge.
Elaine would travel with Hawking whenever he did speeches abroad, and, according to lớn the book, “She loved his strength. She’d speak và listen khổng lồ him patiently, appreciative of the time & energy he expended to lớn communicate with her, và she began to lớn confide in him.”
Meanwhile Jane went lớn Hawking and explained she was having an affair và according to lớn Mlodinow, he gave his blessing. “The idea was that the affair would be kept ‘private and discreet’ và the family would ‘evolve khổng lồ include them all’… ‘It would be a new arrangement, a kind of extended family. What Jane didn’t expect was that Stephen would extend the family again — to include Elaine.”
“If Stephen and Jane had followed a path from man-and-lover khổng lồ infant-and-carer, he và Elaine followed the reverse trajectory,” he wrote.
“This led lớn a new ‘new arrangement.’ It was a constellation as complex as any in the night sky, encompassing Stephen, Elaine, Jane, & Jonathan; the three Hawking children; & their various interconnecting relationships’.
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Stephen and Elaine eventually broke out of the arrangement và married in 1995.
Elaine quit being his nurse lớn become his wife, but would still cook for him & prepare his favorite foods lượt thích curries và roast dinners.
Elaine “loved lớn hold his hand và even though they couldn’t sleep in the same bed, she would come down in the night just to look at him và touch him,” the book said.
“‘ helped Stephen but he helped me,” Elaine told Mlodinow. “I came from a dysfunctional family. My parents didn’t look after us very much. I loved (my ex-husband), but we weren’t in love. I married him because I was 25 and he was the first man who asked me, & that’s what you did. So the feeling of being loved was special. Và I was in love with Stephen and he was in love with me. He accepted me and loved me for who I am inside.”
Hawking’s daughter, Lucy, và son, Tim, however, weren’t as enamored of Elaine và the world was shocked when they accused Elaine of abuse. In 2000, police investigated claims that Elaine had slammed Hawking’s wrist on his wheelchair, allegedly refused khổng lồ let him use his urine bottle so he wet himself, allegedly let him slip beneath the water while in the bath, causing water khổng lồ enter the tracheotomy site in his throat & allegedly left him alone in the backyard on the hottest day of the year, causing him lớn suffer a heat stroke & severe sunburn.
The allegations were strongly denied by Hawking and his assistant Judith Croasdell, and the police concluded their investigation in 2004 without charge. “Whatever happened or didn’t happen, one thing everyone did agree upon was that Elaine và Stephen had always had a stormy relationship,” Mlodinow wrote. “One moment it was: ‘You’re crazy, I hate you, and never want lớn see you again’; the next it was ‘I love you more than anything and could never live without you.’”
One night when Mlodinow came lớn dinner, Elaine erupted, saying: “It’s just that I’ve been his slave for trăng tròn years, & it’s enough.” She later apologized for her outburst.
After Hawking’s death, Elaine told the author, “Stephen was lượt thích an actor. He needed khổng lồ be the center of attention, the center of the universe. He loved it. It gave him energy. He loved people.He had a very tough life but he was an incredibly brave man. He never, ever complained, ever, but he needed khổng lồ be the center of attention. And, yes, I probably resented that. Not all the time, but when I was tired or one of the carers was flirting with him, or whatever it was. But it would be temporary. The resentment would pass. Deep down, he was my only love.”
The couple divorced in 2006 after Hawking fell for another nurse, Diana King, who was 39 years younger than the physicist and suffered from manic depression… something Hawking seemed to lớn like.
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Mlodinow adds: “Was he attracted to lớn troubled women? I wasn’t sure. I thought Diana was intelligent and well read. Nice to lớn chat with; I learned stuff. But that was when she was on her meds.” He later speculates that “physical desire was what drove their connection or it could have been something deeper, a connection between two souls.”
While the two got engaged, Hawking was worried a marriage would cause more problems with his children và backed out, devastating Diana, who once told Mlodinow that Hawking had ‘the most expressive face in the world’ & she could tell what he was thinking by the way his mouth twitched.”
